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Why Self-Help Books Doesn’t Help

Have you ever wondered why self-help books doesn’t
really help?

Most everyone has read these kind of books at one time
or another.

Personally, I have lost count of how many I have read over the years!

I never read fiction, I guess because I was always looking to change or
improve something and I knew fiction was not going to help me.

Whenever I go to the library or Barnes and Noble it seems one
of the most popular sections is self-help.

Why?

Because life is full of problems and people are looking
for answers and help.

Especially now with all the negative talk about inflation, depression and recession!

That kind of talk really triggers people’s poverty consciousness!

So, they start thinking the answer is in a book.

“How to Make More Money” for instance.

The mentality is, ‘read this book and things will change.’

But the truth is, people read book after book and nothing changes.

NOT even a little!

And I speak from experience.

I had the same mentality.

I can’t even begin to tell you ALL the books I thought would change ME.

No book changes you. YOU change you!

The reason just reading self-help books doesn’t help is because people
read without thinking.

Just reading doesn’t develop you mentally. It’s when you think and
contemplate about what you read and then apply it, is when you
get results.

As one of my mentors, Joe Schroeder says, “Life teaches you how
to think and proper thinking teaches you how to live.”

However, thinking is the hardest and most exhausting thing.

I’ve even heard people say that it hurts their brain to think.

Most people won’t train their self to think and will even find
everything in the world to keep them from thinking, like
TV, computer games, reading novels, etc.

Anything to keep from being alone with their thoughts.

If you can train yourself to hold certain thoughts of your ideals
and goals in your mind that are not realized yet, until they manifest,
you will be ‘super successful.’

I have heard it said that only 2% of people actually think,
3% think they think, and the other 95% would rather die than think.

Don’t let yourself be one of the 95%.

If you REFUSE to think, you will be employed by one of the people
who DO think.

So if you are not a reader, I encourage you to start. If you are a reader,
stop and think about what you are reading and how to apply it. Then
take the action!

Keep your highest self in mind despite being told all the negative
about yourself.

And then go a step further and join a group of people that celebrate
you instead of just tolerating you.

Be sure to get on my list for all the details.

Abundantly,
Carol

{ 9 comments… add one }
  • Laura September 14, 2010, 3:22 pm

    Carol,

    Great post! It takes a lot more than reading a book to change. We really need to work on our thinking in order to improve ourselves. Thanks for the great message.

    Laura

  • Roland Leveille September 14, 2010, 8:00 pm

    Carol, I really enjoyed reading this.

    You really put your message together from top to bottom here.

    In fact you have me thinking about something already.

    Thank you thank you

    Roland Leveille

  • Shawn Johnson September 15, 2010, 6:26 am

    Great Article Carol.

    I agree with you when you say YOU change you.

    So many times I have seen people read books attend seminars then revert back to the same person because magically they thought after reading or attending the magical dust would be sprinkle upon their forehead then everything would change.But that is not the case.

    This is a great article and so true becuase the majority of our society think the answer is in the book.

    Funny thing is most of the time it is but they never pull it out and apply it.

    Thanks Carol I like this article.

  • Mattgeib September 15, 2010, 8:28 am

    Carol:

    Great Post! You hit the nail on the head here…

    As you say…”No book changes you. YOU change you!”

    Each of us sooner or later need to take the responsibility to LOOK within for CHANGE…no Book, Seminar, Gu-Ru etc can do this for us.

    Joe also says “Do You Love Yourself enough to Become the success That God intends you to be?”

    The Great Matt Geib

  • Paul September 15, 2010, 10:11 am

    Carol,

    Great post. I must say back in the day I was not a thinker and hated being alone with my own thoughts. I was just trying to survive and then escape.

    Now, some years later through mentors, coaches and great books and posts like this I am able to be alone with my own thoughts and really understand who I truly am.

    Love the part about hanging out with people who celebrate you. M3 is awesome!

    Looking forward to more!

  • Lidia Abadia September 15, 2010, 6:24 pm

    Wow, I love: “Anything to keep from being alone with their thoughts.”

    People do this often, and silence is almost painful to them. I suppose the first step to self growth is turn off the TV, and any news…then start enjoying the silence. Then you can start treading and taking notes. Great post Carol!

  • Carolyn September 15, 2010, 6:24 pm

    Great post! I Really enjoyed it. Got me to thinking.

  • Selena Tention September 15, 2010, 6:41 pm

    I REFUSE to let myself be a part of the 95%. Its true though that most people won’t take the time to think. Most people think that it has to be MORE than just thinking b/c thinking is too easy!

  • Edward Elliott September 17, 2010, 8:28 pm

    Hey Carol,

    Thanks for sharing this message with us here. I love Joe’s quote on “Life teaches you how
    to think and proper thinking teaches you how to live.” It is so true. Once I learned this and applied it into my life it has been transformational! Thanks again for sharing.

    Make it a great day!
    God Bless,
    -ed

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