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Another year of marriage for Steve and I has come and gone. Has it been a year of pain or bliss? 

Life is not always easy and for some, it is not easy at all. But have you ever noticed that for some, no matter how often life beats them to their knees they seem to always be thankful and have a good attitude? In the case of marriage and really everything in life, we need to stop and reflect if we are thankful for what that year brought, be it good or bad.

November 18th marked our 43rd wedding anniversary. Has it always been blissful? Heck no! Have there been many painful times? You bet! Has it been worth it in the long run? Absolutely!

Why? Because even though it has not all been bliss, we genuinely love and care for each other, flaws and all. And not only that, we even like each other. At least most of the time. LOL! Sometimes, it’s hard to imagine being with one person almost 2/3rds of your life. And believe me after that long you become one (as the Bible says) in more ways than you realize.

So what makes a marriage one of pain or bliss?

Well here is my take on that…. YOU do! Not your mate, but you. The power is all yours. Even if your mate is someone you think is difficult to live with, first of all, you chose them. So now it’s your responsibility to do whatever you can to make it work. Your attitude toward them can make all the difference and even soften them. 

So here are a few of my tips for a long-lasting marriage.

1. Master the art of kindness. This can be difficult especially if they are irritating you at the moment. 

2. Practice patience. They say it’s a virtue, but I will tell you it’s not for the faint-hearted. 

3. Take the blame sometimes, especially if it’s something trivial, even though it’s not your fault. Why? Because you know when you need them, they will be right there for you.

4. Work together in good times and bad. Be a team in everything in life.

5. Don’t expect perfection. No one is perfect in this world, so if you expect your mate to be, then they have the right to also expect the impossible from you as well.

6. Know what matters most and keep that in the forefront of your relationship.

All marriages come with their share of pain and bliss. However, when pain and hard times in marriage or life in general come, use your Young Living Oils such as Joy, Gratitude, Humility and Abundance. If you feel stuck and can’t break free from that feeling, remember to use Forgiveness Oil. 

Life and marriage are just a couple of gifts from God as well as our wonderful essential oils. Use and treat them wisely!

Happy Anniversary to my partner in life, Steve Wickett. I love you!

To your everlasting happiness,


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Carol is an essential oil educator and a certified reflexologist. As a distributor of Young Living Essential Oils, she teaches the importance of using genuine, authentic essential oils for health and healing. She has been an advocate of natural health and wellness for the past 35 years. Among the things she has studied includes, the use essential oils, iridology, muscle testing, nutrition, tapping and other forms of energy medicine. 

As always my thoughts are for general educational purposes only.

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This past week on Friday, November 18th, my husband Steve and I celebrated our 42nd wedding anniversary. Some people have said we are in a minority. That marriages that last this long are rare. And indeed I think they are!

Sometimes it seems not long ago that we got married and then sometimes I can’t seem to remember ever being without him. We were just kids when we met in high school. Our romance was passionately turbulent especially since we were raised very differently from everything including parenting styles to religion.

They say you pick someone to work out your childhood issues with and if you really examine your relationship with your spouse you will probably see that is at least partly true. So needless to say we sure had our share of ups and downs. In the first few years it was more down than up. Serving almost four years in the Air Force with a year overseas was not easy either. During that time I went through the death of my dad and gave birth to our first child without him. I look back on some of those times and wonder how we ever made it.

I’m sure you have heard it said that you can love a person but not like them. That sounds funny, but true. At first you don’t see what you don’t like because the love bug is too busy biting you. But after awhile you start seeing things that you don’t like, irritate you and drive you right up a wall. And I’m sure that was mutual on both our parts. But with time you learn how to pick and chose carefully what you make a big deal out of.

Since we married so young, half of those forty plus years were spent growing up together. I must say I was faster at it than he was. Haha! Because I became interested in natural health at age 18, I also became interested in emotional health and psychology and why people act they way they do. So after awhile I figured I could fix him. BIG MISTAKE!! Although I became very good at understanding why he behaved the way he did, it wasn’t until I understood that our communication styles were totally different that things started to get better. 

I sure don’t have all the answers, but here are a few things I feel has made it possible to stay married over four decades and still like each other.

Good communication as I mentioned before is definitely key to a lasting relationship. If you can communicate well you can solve almost any problem or at least compromise and not fight about it. We are both first borns so that in itself has challenges. It’s like having two captains on one ship. Learning to yield to the other when appropriate sometimes takes humility. And actually Steve has some good qualities that I would like more of. And I’m sure I have some he would like to have. So I guess it’s a good balance.

Being supportive of each other is important too. Life will throw you a lot of curve balls. You never know when you will be called on to make a tough decision and having your mates support makes it easier and you know they will be there when you need them. Sometimes the curve ball is an illness, so it’s important to the one mates recovery to have the support of the other.

Working as a team has been very instrumental in our relationship as well. When I decided to work at home building a business in Young Living Essential Oils, Steve supported me all the way. He actually became my partner attending all the meetings and events with me. Since then sharing essential oils and the role they play in helping people achieve better health is a mutual goal we share. Having mutual goals draws you closer together.

Above all else make your mate number one in your life, aside from God. God should absolutely be number one in your life. And if both mates put God first then you have a much better chance of having a strong lasting marriage. You don’t have to agree with me, but I have found that to be true in my life.

Many years ago a friend gave me a refrigerator magnet that remains there to this day. On it is a recipe, and it goes like this…

Recipe For A Happy Marriage

1 cupful of consideration

1 cupful of courtesy

2 cupfuls of flattery carefully concealed

2 cupfuls milk of human kindness

1 gallon faith in God and each other

2 cupfuls praise

1 small pinch of in-laws

1 reasonable budget

A generous dash of cooperation

3 teaspoons of pure extract of “I am sorry”

1 cupful of contentment

1 cupful each of confidence and encouragement

1 large or several small hobbies

1 cupful of blindness to each other’s faults

I have read this recipe many times over the years to see where I need to improve. One of the most dangerous things in a marriage is to get too comfortable with your mate and stop trying to improve. Be honest with each other but kind, and not too serious. If you both work at it, you will stay married a long time, and not only love each other, but like each other as well.

Be well,


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You never know how even a single act of kindness can change someones life. 

There are millions of people in this world that could use some kindness shown to them, however big or small. Even simply giving a smile to someone can brighten their day.

On some level we all have a desire to help other people. And there are tons of ways to do that. Find some things you would like to do and then make a heart commitment about it.

For instance, you might want to donate some books to a local shelter or volunteer to read once a week at a local underprivileged school. Some of the local nursing homes may have a program where volunteers can come in to read to elderly people or lead some group activities like light exercise.

You can give monetarily too if possible to someone in need and that is great. Many times people need that in lots of different situations. Personally, if I am going to give money, I do it anonymously. That way they don’t feel the need to repay me. But, the most valuable thing you can give is your time!

So look around and see who needs help or a little joy in their life. You may be amazed at what’s right under your nose. There have been several times I have simply helped someone find something in the grocery store. If you have school-aged children write a note of appreciation to their teacher. How about taking a pie or cookies to your local firehouse? Make a sincere genuine comment about a great job someone did on a project.

When you do even simple things like this, people are so grateful!

Be sure to resist the temptation of judging people based on how they look or dress. You never know when a small opportunity will present itself and what a difference you can make by responding. Things you do that you discount as NO BIG DEAL can turn into something very powerful. Don’t ignore anyone! Look at people with eyes of discernment. Ask yourself? How can I possibly help this person? Every person has value and the kindness you show them may change their life in some way.

Giving gives a euphoric feeling. It changes your whole demeanor. And that is so important especially when doing business. If people see and experience that you have their best interest at heart and want to find ways to serve them and lift them up, they will want to do business with you when the need arises.

If they feel you want to help them regardless if they ever ‘buy’ from you, you become attractive to them and they will never forget you.

Be a friend for many, because you will get far more in return than you could ever give. I believe in you and your dreams!

Carol Wickett


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How many times have you heard people in your downline say they have ran out of people? I personally have heard this many times and also observed that these people have some things in common. First of all, they tend to think negatively. The "Golden Rule" says what you think, you will create. So just by thinking they have ran out of prospects…they have!

Creating a positive affirmation and repeating it several times daily can help counteract negative thinking. So, your affirmation could be something like "I am so happy and grateful now that the people who are looking for me and my products has found me and become my clients or customers".

Secondly, they keep doing the same things while getting NO results. Albert Einstein basically said this is the definition of insanity. So, if what you are doing is not getting results, STOP what you are doing! Start looking for new opportunities. They are all around you like radio waves. They veer in at you from all directions. But only if you tune yourself into their frequency.

Third, they fail to take the necessary actions. When new ideas come your way…you must ACT. Does this mean you will win? No. And when you don't win, have you failed? Of course not. Look at the Wright Brothers. It took a couple thousand tries with jeering crowds of people along the way before they succeeded. And there are hundreds of other examples of people who took action and refused to give up.

Just because some networking professionals make 300 to 400 times more income than you do, does not mean they are 300 to 400 times smarter or harder working than you. But there is one difference. These people learned how to look for and act on opportunity. Consider what you do right now and ask yourself … How good am I at doing it? How much better could I be? People who look for and act on opportunity simply made slight adjustments that have created a difference. They act where others do not. They have pushed beyond their fears of whatever held them back. Maybe they started doing videos, face-to-face meetings, joining their local Chamber of Commerce, or a Toastmasters club. These are not big moves. Most success stories aren't. The point is that they didn't wait to get it right, they just started.

The people who succeed at attracting a never-ending supply of prospects are positive minded, always looking for new ideas and opportunities and are committed to taking action on their vision. These people never say… "I've ran out of people". Also see my post on… "Do You Have a Success Formula?"

To your success,

Carol Wickett


Everyone, especially now days, is looking for a success formula. And not only are they looking for a success formula, they are looking for a quick one! I don't like to burst people's bubbles… But, I'm going to burst this one. There are no quick formulas that WORK!

However, there is a general five-step success formula that works pretty well… IF you apply and work it.

So here is the 5 steps:

1. Clearly Identify your ultimate goal. 

2. Construct a game plan for reaching that goal.

3. Use this plan to set up short-term goals that lead towards your ultimate goal. They should be bite-sized , feasible, and if possible, measurable.

4. Attack each of your short-term goals in order, one at a time, by focusing all your energies on it. Once it is accomplished, move on to attack your next short-term goal.

5. Monitor your overall process toward your ultimate goal as more information becomes available. Consider whether or not you need to modify your game plan. If you modify the plan, change your short-term goals accordingly. Short-term goals are key for your success formula. And meeting these short-term goals is crucial to meeting your long-term goals.

(See my article on ("Seven Steps to Achieving Goals"). Long-term goals supply overall direction and motivation. There is a "Golden Rule" for anyone working towards a goal. And it's this: Always ask this question before you take any action towards a goal…

"Will this help me get get what I choose? If the answer is NO, then don't do it!

To your success,



What will change your life is a new way of thinking and taking control of your focus. If you can get focused, you can accomplish just about anything. But, rather than focusing on tasks, which most people do… Focus on RESULTS!

Here are 3 steps to help you!

1. Look at the situation as it is.

2. Look at the situation as it being better than it really is.

3. Look at the situation as if you already achieved the outcome or result. Develop an effective plan to turn your vision into reality.

To do that here are a couple questions to ask.

1. What outcome or result do I really choose to have?

2. What's my purpose and why do I choose it to be that way?

3. What specific actions must I take now to achieve it? Those who are successful are totally clear about the final results they desire and therefore start with the end in mind. Because they know why they want a particular result they have a burning desire to achieve it. Therefore, it's tied to a specific, clear goal! This in turn creates a certainty of knowing that your dream is about to become a reality.

Because we live in a fast-paced, complex world, we need a system that is not only effective, but simple and easy-to-apply. Instead of reacting to the demands put on us, we need to give ourselves more choices as to how we deal with things and the permission to act on those choices! Asking ourselves soul-searching questions helps define what matters most in our lives.

Questions like…

1. What am I really proud of in my life?

2. What am I grateful for?

3. Whom do I love?

4. Who could I allow to love me?

5. What am I happy about right now?

6. How much better will my life be when I accomplish my dreams and goals?

What makes us truly happy is spending our time, emotions, and feelings on what really matters to us most. Staying focused is how we create the time to do so and is definitely the KEY to getting results!


Carol Wickett


Everyone would like to be able to predict their future, especially their business future. However, the only way to do that is to CREATE it yourself! How? By learning to map out your direction, build your team, market your products and how and when to expand. Some areas you need to obtain skills in are… Focus, balance, getting clear about your intentions, negotiation and leadership.

First of all, learning to control your FOCUS is key. By doing this, you instantly change the quality of your life. Remember, we get what we focus on, and that determines how we feel. Whatever you are succeeding or failing at right now, no matter what it is, is largely a reflection of what you are focusing on in these areas of your life. And it may be that you are NOT focusing at all! If you are unbalanced in your focus and it's all going in one area, other areas of your life will suffer. This is where the balance comes in.

For instance, if all you ever do is work, then your family or other relationships will be affected. Are you taking care of your body, but not your spiritual needs? Are you focused on marketing, but not looking at your business finances? It doesn't matter if you are stressed or fulfilled in what you do. It's the results you are producing that's important. So, it's just a matter of where your putting your focus and is it balanced?

Focus is very POWERFUL. It can change the way we think, feel and what we do in any given moment. What we focus on will determine the course of our direction. The other areas of sales techniques, negotiation and leadership skills are important, but if you don't MASTER the skill of focus, you won't master these other things.

In a world where people pride themselves on multi-tasking, it becomes difficult to focus on one thing long enough to get a desired outcome. It takes PRACTICE! Start training yourself to do one thing at a time until it's done. Having too many projects going at one time that are not being completed leads to frustration. Master the skill of focus in mundane things as well as your business plan and goals. You will be surprised at the outcome!


Carol Wickett


I can't say that I was ever a BIG fan of the Grateful Dead, but I have to tell you an article in yesterday's Cincinnati Enquirer caught my eye! So, what can a rock band teach you about marketing? Evidently PLENTY! The Grateful Dead are kinda the pioneers of viral marketing. They made a series of important choices to separate themselves from everyone in their industry. Their success came from doing just the opposite of what other brands and recorded labels were doing at the time, which in turn cultivated their fan base.

So, what did they do? A couple big things was… They GAVE AWAY content and … They put their FANS FIRST! The following is the article I read in the November 14th Cincinnati Sunday Enquirer, which appeared in the business section. Grateful Dead can give you a marketing lesson or two. by David Holthaus "It may have been a long, strange trip, but look where it's led. Sunday night, the latest reincarnation of the Grateful Dead will make it's first appearance together in Cincinnati in 20 years. Maybe it should be required attendance for anyone interested in marketing, building brands, and connecting with customers. Think of it as a offline seminar. After 45 years of building audiences and creating generations of loyal fans, the Dead has suddenly become a business case study. Newly published "Marketing Lessons from the Grateful Dead" (John Wiley and Sons, $21.95) is just the latest book to analyze the phenomenon of the tie-dyed band. It's co-written by marketing strategist David Merrman Scott, who as a student in the early '80's at Kenyou College in central Ohio, spent hours in his dorm room listening to the potent mix of rock, blues, country and psychedelia that is unmistakably Dead. Those hours have yielded insight into how the band not only kept its fans interested, but expanded that base to a whole new generation that barely remembers its deceased leading light, Jerry Garcia. "The Grateful Dead pioneered many social media and inbound marketing concepts that businesses across all industries use today," Scott says. "Every business can learn from what the Grateful Dead has done over a 45-year career."

For example: * The Dead pioneered a "freemium" business model now used by many. Most bands forbid fans from recording concerts. The Dead not only encouraged it, they carved out space where "tapers" could set up sophisticated recording equipment. That built a trading network among fans, creating a powerful word-of-mouth momentum that only whet the appetite for more. * Their business model was the exact opposite of most rock bands. Instead of focusing on selling albums, they created an "experience" centered around live performances. That created a passionate fan base that lasted and grew for years. * They put their customers-their fans first. The Dead bypassed ticket-selling giants like Ticketmaster and sold tickets directly. Hard-core fans got the first news about tours and first crack at the best seats, again driving loyalty. "So many organizations do precisely the opposite," Scott says. "Instead of putting loyal customers first, they ignore them while they try to get new ones." In March, The Atlantic magazine ran "Management Secrets of the Grateful Dead," which quoted Florida business professor Barry Barnes on how he uses the Dead to teach strategy to business execs. "People are just so tired of hearing about GE and Southwest Airlines," he said. 'They get really excited to hear about the Grateful Dead."

If you do more research on Google about the Grateful Dead, you will find lots of information about their marketing strategies and style. But, here are 3 of my favorites that they did.

*Give up control of your marketing messages. Instead of trying to DEFINE yourself with a rigid brand so-to-speak, let the community you are in define and talk about you. The end result will be a larger community of people who follow you.

*Give Gratefully! Giving back to the community and those who follow you is an essential element of your image. A consistent and sustained level of giving has significant benefits for any business.

*Do what you LOVE now! Don't wait to get it right. Your passion will keep you persevering through the rough times. The Grateful Dead taught people to live their own dreams -NOT someone elses. So there you have it… marketing strategies used by a rock band!call.




How much pure water do you drink? Did you know that the rule of thumb is to drink at least one half your body weight in ounces of water everyday? And if you are cleansing, then even more is required. You may be thinking that is a lot, especially if you don’t like the taste of water. On the other hand though, how much coffee, tea, soda pop, or junk juices do you drink each day?

The following are some amazing things that water does for the body:

* It removes free radicals from the body.

* It is an aid to strong bone formation.

* It is vital to energy production in the cells.

* It is needed for proper overall metabolism.

* It is needed for the brain to imprint new information in its memory banks.

* It increases the efficiency of the immune system.

* It is needed for the production of nature’s sleep regulator, melatonin.

I could go on and on, but you get the idea of how important it is to consume enough water each day! Choosing better health begins with what we choose to put in our bodies. One of the first things to consider is water.

We can all live without food for a few days or more, however we will die in a short amount of time without water. The amount of water to drink is important to keep hydrated and to keep the toxins flushed out. Now you may be wondering if you can count the water in your coffee, tea, soda pop, juice or other beverages. My question to you about that is… When you wash dishes do you rinse them in coffee, tea, pop, juice, etc.? Of course not! Then why would you rinse your body in it?

And the effects of coffee, tea, soda, etc. on the body is another subject. Ok, so now we know the importance of drinking lots of water. But how many of you have thought about the quality of water that you drink? Tap water is NOT your highest choice because it it contains flourine and chlorine among other things. These are two toxins that are detrimental to the thyroid gland in particular. So, make sure you are drinking pure, clean or restructured water.

So if you are one of those people that hate the taste of water, adding some Young Living Essential Oils can give a delicious flavor to what can otherwise be a boring drink. One or two drops per glass is usually enough.

Some of my favorites are Young Living’s lemon, orange, peppermint, grapefruit and tangerine. I especially enjoy peppermint oil for it’s ability to curb the appetite. Make sure you are using Young Living Essential Oils, since other oils on the market are perfume grade and not suitable for internal use!

So, have a few glasses of naturally purified water flavored with your favorite organic essential oils. Your body will thank you!

To Your Good Health,


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There are some basic things that never change as far as what customers or clients expect from people they do business with. These things are what I call the core foundation of business. Research shows that customers want reliability and accessibility. In other words, they want you to keep your WORD.

I personally believe a business person/company is only as good as his/their word is. Here is an example of what I am talking about. Recently my daughter was having some car problems and on my advice took it to a well-known place that most people would know the name of. I recommended it because I had great service there in the past. Ok, so there is the word-of mouth. So, she takes her car in, explains the problem and they said we will get you in shortly and give you a call. It shouldn't take that long to check it out. (I picked her up so she didn't have to wait). She waited 3 hours and did not hear anything, so she called only to find out they said they could not hear any noise. She had to go ride with the guy to make sure he heard it. After 4 more hours she finds out the parts they put on were defective from the factory. They had to replace them. The first day was 7 hours. However, the car is NOT fixed. She had to bring it back. And they said, it should not take long, only about an hour or so. That day wound up to be 8 hours long. Unbelievably still the problem is NOT fixed. So, they said there is only one other thing it could be, bring it in, we already have the parts here, it will only take about an hour and a half. Three hours pass and she called only to get told her car would be done by the end of the day. So that day turned out to be 5 and a half hours! It amounted to the better part of 3 days!

Needless to say, she was fit to be tied and will not be a repeat customer. I think this shows the importance of keeping your WORD. If you said a product or service would be delivered in a certain amount of time, do your utmost to keep your word. If problems arise, do not wait till the customer calls you. Call the customer and explain the situation. It's better to under-promise and over-deliver! Remember, your word is your reputation. Protect it! Keep your word and people will keep you!